View Full Version : How can I find a real friend?

12-21-2011, 10:05 PM
All my life I've convinced myself that I don't really need to be chummy with another man, but now that my marriage is suffering and I'm losing my wife of 21 years, I realize that I really DO need a true friend. You see, I've been without a friend for so long, I don't even know how to find one.

For the last 20 years, my wife, Rebecca, has had a good friend, Sylvia, even though she says the friendship hinges more on Sylvia than her. Over the years, I've been really glad that Rebecca's had this good friendship, but at the same time stirred up feelings of jealousy. Now that our marriage is hanging in the balance, I wish I could've had that same kind of friendship with a guy who'd listen to and understand me in a way that a wife never could. You know what I'm talking about? I've internalized way too much, and now I don't even know how to express that to my wife, especially now at the most crucial time of my life. I need a friend to share my problems with, someone local. How do I start?